Recently a client told me how she seems to lose her temper so quickly and go into a knee jerk, mean person, angry, and hurtful place with her husband. She doesn’t want to go there, she realizes when she’s doing it that it isn’t OK, and yet in the moment it feels good.
What I told her is that she’s letting her emotions drive her bus.
Imagine a bus. Make it however you want – a yellow school bus, a tricked out tour bus, a custom job made just for you. Imagine that this bus is taking you exactly where you want to go in life. It is your personal life vehicle.
Now imagine that you are lounging around in your bus, moving right along on your journey, and all of a sudden the bus is swerving all over the road, hitting trees and signs, rolling over small (gulp!) animals, and taking a sharp left in a completely unwanted direction.
You wrangle the wheel from the crazy driver, retrack to get back on course, stop to apologize to the bystanders for the damage done, and finally calm the nerves of the rest of bus passengers. You are exhausted and mad at yourself for letting the crazy bus driver take over.
This can be one of the results of letting your emotions drive your bus.
Sometimes letting your emotions drive your bus can result in a screeching of the brakes, halting in the middle of the street, all passengers crumpled under their seats, and a bus that will not move forward.
Your emotions are important. They are great guides. But they are terrible drivers.
Fear will tell you if you’re approaching a cliff. Anger will tell you if you have unwanted passengers on board. Frustration will tell you the road you’re on isn’t working.
It’s important for you to drive the bus and to consult with your emotions, your Wise Voice, and other guides on a regular basis. You may even need to stop and ask for directions.
Do you let your emotions drive your bus? Are you turning over driver duties to anyone else?
I want you to take back the wheel of your own life. What would you need to do that?
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