I could blame post vacation blues, or peri-menopausal hormones, or too much sun and socialization this last weekend, or the bad economy, or riots in London, or the depletion of the ozone…
But the fact jack is it’s all me.
I don’t enjoy living in the land of slump; the inner conflict that it highlights, the tiredness that it brings along, or the general dive in motivation that is its flag waving hallmark. But I am self aware and savvy enough to know that this is a place I visit periodically and that it most often results in lustrous pearls of wisdom if I don’t get caught in the slump riptide and get dragged into the deep ocean of inertia and blame.
I have to remember that I am in charge of me and for the most part I create what I live, at least in terms of how I choose to respond to the world in and around me.
When I’m dealing with slump I have to remember several key points.
I won’t feel like this forever
This is hard in the beginning since I’m so involved in feeling mired in my slump. I’m mopey and lackluster and tired. All I want to do is watch ‘The Bachelor’ and organize the heck out of my home. Then the light bulb goes on and the trumpets blare and my Wise Voice shouts ‘you’re in a slump girly!’
A-ha! That’s when I recover my memory (it somehow goes on vacation during the first part of a slump) and I remember that this always passes, and I have ways of moving things along.
I acknowledge the resistance
For me, when I get into these periods I find that the slumpy vortex sucking me into its black hole is usually about resistance or inner conflict. I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel the importance of moving in a certain direction, or doing a certain activity, but I’m uncomfortable with it and I’m not yet sure why.
Screeech! Resistance and conflict brings me to a paralyzed slumpy halt.
Use my tools
Once I’ve gotten the message that here I am, firmly planted in slump, which equals resistance, then I know that it’s important for me to lay out my tools and begin to use them. Some of my tools are:
- Talk to my inner circle. I’m careful who I talk my inner conflicts over with, since I need a good mixture of validation and kick in the bootie.
- Get out of my house. Walking on the beach, getting in nature, and mixing up my routine all help to shake out the sticky, slumpy thoughts so I can see them more clearly and truthfully.
- Meditate and journal. When I get quiet and ask for answers or inspiration I usually get guided to just the right answer. Sometimes the answers come to me, and sometimes I’m inspired towards something else that has the answer for me.
- Focus on the next right thing. I can get overwhelmed easily if I think too big picture sometimes, so if I just think about what is the next right thing I can usually break the inertia that is keeping me stuck. At the very least I continue to move forward.
- Honor my body. I drink a lot of water during this time and I have a tendency to sleep more. For whatever reason, my physical self needs the energy.
I’d love to know what you do when you get in a slump.
Do you fight it or go with it? What do you learn from it? Do you have other tools that work? Please leave a comment since I’m sure I’m not the only person in the world who gets in the slumps and could use a hand to get out.