I just returned from 3 super charged days in Anaheim at Nancy Marmolejo’s I Heart My Biz.
No we did not break out into the song ‘YMCA’ , but we did dance, and laugh, and cry and connect in super exciting ways.
Don’t we look happy and beautiful in that photo. We were. Not only because of the profound information and breakthroughs, but because we were together, and connecting.
We became a tribe, a village. And I took some of those village people home with me.
Most of the time I work alone. But I can’t do it alone.
So I need a village. And, I need a growing village.
I’ve tried to do it all alone and I can tell you it doesn’t work. I burned out, life became unworkable, and I was not a nice woman to be around.
Do you relate? Are you trying to do your life, work, everything by yourself?
Who’s in your village?
You are going to have people who serve different functions for keeping your life and work going.
Who’s your trusted confidant? Who do you go to for fun and giggles? Who can tell you exactly where to find the resource you need? Who is helps you with your creative genius?
You need all kinds in your village.
What kind of wall do you have?
Every village needs a boundary. You can’t let just anyone in your village. There may be cannibals or enemies with spears. Definitely keep those folks out.
If someone in your village is backstabbing, or talking bad about you, or just in general being a definite downer, then banish her from your village.
How do you ask for help?
It’s great to have a village, but if you don’t ask your people for help then you’re not working it.
Are you one of those women who thinks you should do it all on your own? You’re not the only one.
If that’s you, remember that those in your village want to help you. They are dying to help you. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help.
Make a list of your village.
I did this today and I was shocked to realize how many people I have in my world who I can call upon for different things, both personally and professionally.
Who’s in your inner circle – the ones you go to for trusted personal support?
Who do you hang out with for fun? Who are your business and work mentors?
Who are your die hard cheerleaders?
Make your list.
If you’re the only one on it, then honey, you need to get out and get connected.
Perhaps you can put me on your list. I’m happy to be a supportive source in your village.
What do you think?
Leave a comment. I’d love to know how you make your village work for you.