You know the golden rule. Treat others as you would want to be treated.
We’ve grown up by that axiom and in general most people would tend to agree that the golden rule is a good idea. It helps us to play nice with others.
But, what about boomeranging the golden rule back at ourselves? What about using it as a helpful rule about how to treat you – treat yourself as you would want others to treat you.
Maybe we could call it the Golden Boomerang.
So here’s how this came about for me. I’m vacuuming. And, I’m thinking about how I’ve been so remiss in being consistent and regular with my blog posts.
My inner conversation kind of went like this:
“Well, you HAVE been out of town for 2 ½ weeks. That’s no excuse – you could have gotten your act together and set up several pre-posts. Yes, I could have, and I also have another business and a part time job, which BTW make the money. OK, good point, but you’re just not managing your time well enough. You should be able to get it all done without any dilly dallying. Yes, I could do that, but then I’d just be a bitch and watch HGTV all weekend, and nobody would like me anymore.”
I felt a bit caught between wanting to make the best use of my time and move my creative business endeavors forward, but not give up my soul (and all my great relationships) in the process.
So, I considered what sage advice my coach Nancy Marmolejo and my supportive mastermind sisters would give me.
They would certainly not let me off the hook. I would not hear – ‘oh, you’ve been busy, don’t worry about the consistency of your blog’.
But I also would not hear – ‘you’re a complete failure and you should simply give all this up now’.
What I would likely hear (and want to hear) is – ‘yes, you’ve have some extra busyness in your life lately. How would you like to handle that? When are you going to schedule time for your creativity and consistency?’
Ah – the supportive voice of reason. So, though I was already on my way to accomplishing what I wanted/needed to do (notice the should is gone), I listened to my internal wise women and I feel better.
My wise support system would treat me kindly, but not let me off the hook. That’s exactly what I would want from them, so that’s how I’ll treat myself.
What about you? Do you treat yourself like you’d like others to treat you?
How might you be harder on yourself than any other reasonable human would be?
How may you be letting yourself off the hook or making excuses when your supportive sister may look at you with one eyebrow raised?
How can you use the Golden Boomerang to gently push you in the right direction?