How well do you know yourself?
If you’re a Mom you know your children (unless they’re teenagers) inside and out. Chances are if you’re partnered you also know your special other like the back of your hand.
But, do you know yourself as well as you know others?
If you don’t know yourself, who will?
If you are not the expert on you, then you’re leaving it to chance that someone else will take the time and effort to figure you out, read your mind or your needs, and take care of you and your feelings.
That’s kind of a crapshoot– but many of us do it.
So, here are the 10 things that are a requirement and must be a part of your personal owner’s manual.
1. Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Many folks think that introverts don’t like the spotlight or big parties, but that’s not true. Introverts simply require more alone and quiet time in order to recharge energy. Extroverts on the other hand need people to recharge their energy. How much quiet and alone vs. time with others do you need?
2. What are your strengths? There are things that you are so good at that we could consider them your superpowers. List those things. For me: organization, seeing patterns in people, communicating, downhill skiing, developing systems, teaching, writing, new ideas (and more). You?
3. What do you like? I like reality TV, but I wouldn’t consider it strength or a superpower. I also like traveling, wine, time with small groups of friends, dinner with my husband, photography, and reading. You?
4. What are your weaknesses? We all have them and there’s nothing inherently bad or wrong with having a weakness. You just need to know what yours are so you can steer clear, hire someone who has that strength, or find a way to get better at it.
5. What don’t you like? Your dislikes are not personal failures and you don’t have to make yourself like those things. I don’t like big parties. I like small gatherings (goes with the introvert thing). However, I don’t consider something is wrong with me because all my friends like to go to big parties and live it up. I just don’t go. Are you making yourself wrong for something you don’t like?
6. What do you want – right now? I want you to ask this question regularly and be able to answer it. Many women I know are rather puzzled by this question since the focus has been more on ‘what should I do’. So practice now. What do you want?
7. How do you fill your bucket? My personal adage is– you can’t water a garden with an empty bucket. There is no way for you to care for others, your responsibilities, and the rest of your life, if you are not taking good care of yourself. What are those things that give you energy, peace, fulfillment, and that are about you and your personal recharge?
8. What makes you laugh and smile? A big belly laugh (you know, the kind that almost make you wet your panties) is like a massage from the inside out. And, research has shown that simply the muscle action of smiling makes you feel happier.
9. Who do you trust? I see our network of relationships like an image of a target. Those closest to us are in the small bulls-eye in the center and then we have other levels that move farther away from us. Do you know who in your relationship web you trust the most? It’s not everyone – that’s foolish. But there needs to be at least one or two. Who’s in your bulls-eye?
10. What is your dream? Without regard to how it would happen or what you would need to create it – what is your dream? Is it to travel somewhere, meet someone famous, own something particular, or experience something specific? Mine currently involves a camper, my camera, a laptop, various friends/family/pets, and 3-6 months in the western US. I don’t know how or when, but I know it will happen. Sometimes you may fail to dream because you don’t know how. Let go of he how, and let your dream take hold.
Imagine that you need to get somewhere fast and you hop in the passenger seat of your car and really hope that the person in the driver’s seat will know where you need to go and get you there.
Knowing yourself is taking over the driver’s seat and getting yourself where you want to go.
You can take someone else along for the ride – or not.