Recently I conducted a survey. Maybe you participated. If so, a huge thank you – and a big virtual hug! I wanted to know what areas of life women feel pretty good about and what areas need some dusting, polishing, or a complete overhaul.
I learned a lot.
Physical health, financial health, marriage or partnership, self care, and emotional well being topped the list of the areas that most women felt important in making some kind of change or shift.
But, I also learned some of the things that are important in regards to friends, spiritual life, pleasure and fun, and time.
What I heard is that women want to be more connected, feel more prosperous and secure, and feel good about taking time for themselves.
OK. Let’s do that then. 5 simple steps will help you on your way to getting more of what you want and less of what you don’t
1. What’s Not Working?
What would you like to make different in your life right now?
Exercise more often? Not worry so much about money? Create more close friends? What is it?
2. What’s Your Part?
Be truthful with yourself – what is it that is solely your responsibility that is getting in the way of you having what you want? Do you fail to make exercise a priority? Do you have old stinky beliefs about money? Do you blame your friends for not staying in touch?
Unless you get clear and honest with your own responsibility for your life, you can’t get what you want.
3. Get Quiet, Ask, and Listen
I call this checking in with your Wise Voice. Take a deep breath, hold the idea of what it is that you’d like to make different in your mind, and then simply wait and pay attention.
Your Wise Voice may come in a variety of forms, but you need to be paying attention and clearing out the static enough that you hear what she’s saying.
4. What Are The Barriers?
You are listening to your own self talk all the time. You know, that constant chatter that is always going on in the background of your mind.
I bet that you have some kind of negative and unhelpful voices that are loud and in charge. I bet those unhelpful voices are critical, mean, or perfectionistic.
These nasty negative voices set up barriers for you to get what you want, because they tell you things like ‘you’re not good enough’, ‘you don’t deserve that’, or ‘that’s too scary’.
These voices are like static and it’s important to learn to tune them out.
5. What’s The Next Right Step?
If you were going to go towards getting what you want, what would be the next right step?
Moving a pesky negative belief out of the way? Learning something new so you’re more prepared? Picking up the phone and calling someone? Getting help to figure this all out?
Your Wise Voice will always tell you what your next right step is, but you need to be tuned in and keeping the static down.
What do you want to make different? Abundant friends, piles o’ money, stellar health, greater security, amazing confidence? You can do it, but it won’t just happen while you’re sitting around waiting. Start at Step 1 and take charge of your life.