Not long ago I posed that question to my Facebook friends. Here are some of the very cool responses:
- Kayaking, hiking, yoga, more reading and cooking, learning golf, and returning to ballet, which I bailed from years ago.
- Traveling, hiking and eating great ethnic foods!
- Building and maintaining real wealth instead of “phantom wealth”. Focusing on relationships, mentoring, education, health care, food, and entertainment.
- Traveling, renovating Craftsman bungalows, painting classes, yoga classes followed by massage, crafting….most of all taking care of grandkids
- Doing exactly what I’m doing now, but being able to do it more often for free
- Traveling always springs to mind first. And writing or filming the wonders in life that I see.
My husband and I had that conversation over my birthday dinner this year. Such an illuminating question, isn’t it?
What we discovered, over perfectly cooked fish and sparkling Prosecco, is that neither of us noted a desire to spend bucket loads of money on completely remodeling our kitchen, which we were moments away from doing earlier in the year. But, travel was a high priority for us. And, not any old travel, but traveling with people we love.
And, so the Enchanted June trip was born.
Have you seen the movie Enchanted April? It’s a lovely film about two proper British women who go off to the Italian countryside for the month of June and invite their friends to join them.
My lovely husband and I have been fantasizing about having our own enchanted April for years. But… it seemed like a far away fantasy, something that could only happen after we’d completely remodeled our house, or piles of money dropped on us, or we’d retired, or, or, or….
What we didn’t realize is that we had placed a priority on things in our world that were not at the top of our priority list. We were waiting for some magical moment to tell us that now was the time for the long held desire to come true.
And, a momentous thing happened in that conversation. Once we realized what was really important to us, and walked through the resulting trepidation, Enchanted June was born. We began planning the trip – where to go, who to invite, what the cost would be. And, interestingly enough it was all very doable. It was not the unobtainable fantasy that we had made it out to be.
If we were ready to spend a bunch of money on granite countertops, why not spend it on creating lasting experience and memories with our loved ones. That’s what we really want.
The invitations went out last weekend. We’re going to Italy in June 2011 to celebrate our ‘5s’. I’m turning 50 and lovely husband is turning 55. We will be joined by whomever of our fabulous friends and family can make their way across the ocean to be with us.
So, I ask again – If you no longer needed to make money, how would you spend your time?
My guess is that somewhere in your answer lies a fantasy that could be realized now and not put off to some unspecified future.
Make your fantasy real. I dare you! And, I want to hear about it.
And, someday we really will get new kitchen countertops. But, we’re clear on that priority for now.