‘Tis the season of pie. Likely if you are from the U.S. you will sit at a Thanksgiving table in a few days and dip your fork into luscious slices of pie. As much as a great slice of pumpkin pie can make me happy, that’s not the kind of pie I’m talking about today.
What I mean is a pie chart. Hmmm…. Pie chart, happiness, how does that work, you’re thinking.
I’ll show you. Get a piece of blank paper and draw a circle.
Now consider how much time and energy you ideally want to spend in each of the areas of your life, such as: work, family, fun, self care, spiritual, exercise, friends, chores, and any other category that is relevant to you.
Draw this as slices in your circle with each slice of pie representing a different category in life and the time and energy you ideally would like to spend there.
If ideally you would like to spend 50% of your pie on fun, then that slice would take up half your pie. Get it?
Once you’ve completed the Ideal pie, get another piece of paper and draw another circle. This time do the same exercise but draw your pie slices as the amount of time and energy that you actually spend now in each of the same areas.
Hmmmm…. Look at them side by side. Does one look like chocolate cream and the other like cow (pie I mean).
Chances are your pies look different. For most people who do this exercise the chores and work area take up way more time in the Reality pie than they do in the Ideal pie.
For most people the ideal pie has more focus on fun, and family, and self care, but often those areas show up as tiny slivers in the Reality pie.
What are the differences in your pies? And, how different are they?
The more different your Reality pie is from your Ideal pie, the less likely you feel happiness on a regular basis. That’s because you’re living life how you think you should, not how you want. (That’s a cow pie for sure!)
I know you have responsibilities. Carpool, bills, family obligations… But, I bet there are some slices of your pie that you could change now, even with your responsibilities.
How can you get closer to your Ideal pie? Do you need to delegate, or ask for help, or reassign family duties? Are you just plodding along day to day and not really paying attention to the entrenched habits that have been created? Or, (gasp!) do you need to say No more often?
What is one thing that you can change today that will get you closer to your Ideal pie? Now, do it!
You’ll feel relieved and a bit of happiness will creep in where it wasn’t before.