Recently I had the pleasure of spending 3 days with my Mastermind Sisters. That’s us over there. Last June when I joined this group, I did not know these women and over the course of the last 9 months I have grown a strong heart connection with them. They have been a crucial force in helping me manifest my bottled up dream into a reality.
I feel lucky because I have several circles that I belong to, and many relationships that I can call upon and use for support in the different parts of my life. In addition to my amazing mastermind group, there’s my women’s spiritual circle, my book club (the food and wine one), the other book club (the spiritual one), my inner circle of friends, and my husband.
Each of these groups or people provides for me a unique type of support and nurturing. I know exactly where to turn if I have a personal crisis, if I desperately require a giggle and a glass of wine, if I need some quick and savvy biz advice, or if I want to share and celebrate.
I know so many women who don’t have any kind of circle of support. Not a best friend. Not a community of supportive women. Maybe a gossiping group of neighbors. Maybe a demanding family. But, not that solid, supportive place to go and be held, helped, and truly seen.
It’s in Our DNA
Finding and belonging to the right circles of support is crucial for women. It is in our blood, our DNA. For eons women have been gathering in circles — to assist in the work of the day, to provide caring for each other and family, to worship and offer devotion, and to be seen and heard clearly.
In responding to stress, research is now showing that women most often have a ‘tend and befriend’ response. Women are not programmed like men to fight or flee, but to gather and nurture. We work out life in circles.
It’s important to choose your circle wisely. It’s important for you to feel that you will be accepted fully and unconditionally, that you will be heard, that criticism will come in a compassionate package, and that you will see the greatness of you reflected in the others in the circle.
It is also important that you bring your best self to the circle. You accept others unconditionally, you hear others fully, you provide feedback in a loving way, and you see and share how great your friends are. A law of the Universe is that you will attract that which you are putting out. So if you want to create strong powerful circles of support for yourself, then take a good long look at how you are operating in the world.
Humans are pack animals. Women are social creatures and we belong in groups. We cannot do life alone, though I know you may be trying to.
Who’s in your circle?
What circles do you belong to? Are those circles supportive, or draining?
If you’re like a lot of women I know, you feel like you’re surrounded by people, pulled by them in every direction, but walking alone.
I want you to have supportive circles. That’s what women do. That’s how we thrive, and flourish, and become our best selves.
What about you? Please leave a comment. I’d love to hear what your support circles are like.