When something about your life doesn’t feel right – you don’t like your job, your friends are demanding, you feel tired and drained – do you think that there’s something not right about you, or about the situation?
I enjoy reality TV and one of the shows I love to watch is ‘What Not to Wear’. I love how women can transform internally by spiffing up their look. What happens a lot on that show is that the makeover victim is standing in the dressing room trying on clothes that don’t fit, and consequently don’t look good. She bemoans how her body is not right for the clothes, that there’s something wrong with her. She feels like crap.
In swoop Stacey and Clinton, thera-stylists, who help this woman to see that it’s the clothes that aren’t fitting her, not the other way around.
If a pair of pants doesn’t fit, you don’t have to change your body – just choose a different pair of pants.
So, are you trying to change yourself for an uncomfortable situation? Or, even worse, are you judgmentally berating the fact that you can’t change enough to make it feel OK?
Good news! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. Repeat. You are perfectly fine the way you are. It is the situation that generally needs adjusting, or how you address it.
For example, I worked in a standard, for somebody else setting for almost 25 years. I couldn’t figure out why after 6 months I would get tired of my job and begin to detest it. I tried really hard to make myself fit into a standard 40 hour work week schedule.
Then I chucked it. For the last 8 years I’ve been working for myself, or for others in a way that I can control how and when I do things.
What I learned is that I need a lot of change (big surprise) and I simply don’t have the energy to work 8 hours in a row. I changed the situation and I became a much happier, more productive, and satisfied woman.
What about you? What situation could you change now that might not be fitting you well?
I want to see your square peg self fit nicely and comfortably into that square hole.