Now imagine if you went out to tend and water it and you found there was simply no water in the bucket. If that was the situation day after day, the garden would likely shrivel up and die, drought resistant weeds would take over, and it would look and feel like a blight in your yard.
Gardens! Who’s talking about gardens? I’m talking about you!
You, your life, and those you love are your garden. And, it is up to you to have enough water in your personal tending bucket in order to make your life work in a joyful way. When you are depleted from not caring for yourself well, then life is hard, and you really don’t do your best job in caring for those you love either.
There are several things to pay attention to as you’re tending to your own bucket.
What brings you joy?
How much of what you do during your day brings you joy? How often do you purposely add joy to your life? For some, work is joy, but for most it’s far from it. Make a list of what it is that brings you joy – a child’s smile, dancing, coffee with friends, sex. Keep it handy, so if you get really overwhelmed you can have a quick reminder. Joy puts energy in our bucket.
What’s your natural energy level?
For a woman who is more active in her energy, having a lot of quiet down time may actually deplete her bucket. If you think of it like a spectrum, with naturally low energy as a 1 and naturally high energy as a 10, where do you see yourself? Answer this question as you truly are, not as how you want to be.
What is your current pace?
Now that you know your natural energy level, evaluate the pace of your current energy output. Use the same 1 to 10 scale. Are you a natural energy 4 going at the pace of a 9? Or are you a natural energy 9, going at the pace of a 4? Work on getting your pace oriented towards your natural level of energy. We talk a lot about women being way too busy in our world (which is true), but you can also get too bored. Neither extreme put energy in your bucket.
Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
Does being around people energize you or deplete you? If it energizes you then you essentially are an extrovert. Extroverts fill their bucket by being around people. Introverts generally recharge by being alone or with one other person. So, if you’re an introverted women who works with a lot of people all day, getting some serious alone time will help to fill your bucket.
How are you maintaining your machine?
Your body is a big part of your bucket and it needs proper care, rest, and feeding in order to do its best job. It’s amazing to me how many women I work with who don’t eat breakfast. And, who don’t drink water during the day because they don’t want to take the time to go to the bathroom. What about sleep? Getting enough? Probably not. These are the basics. You can get 100 pedicures or bubble baths to take care of yourself, but if you’re constantly dehydrated and your brain isn’t getting proper nutrition, then life is still going to seem hard. Make a true assessment of how you’re doing in the care and feeding of your body.
Everyone’s bucket is different.
Know how to fill yours up and keep it that way. Make it a priority; write your bucket filling needs in your calendar. Ensure that you take great care of yourself so that you can take great care of the rest of your life and those in it.
How do you fill your bucket? Would love to know, so please leave a comment.
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