I discussed gardens, buckets, and your need to care for yourself in my last post, but a full bucket doesn’t do much good if you’ve got lots of leaks. A leaky bucket requires you to put much more effort into filling it than if you have no leaks at all.
Here are 3 leaks that you most definitely want to plug immediately!
These are the things that we just put up with and tolerate.
Imagine a vampire. According to Twilight, good looking, though a little pasty, charming and super powered, but it sucks the life out of you! And that’s just what all those little things in life that you’re simply putting up with do.
Look around you right now. Is there a pile of paper or clutter that you’ve been walking by, thinking that perhaps you’ll get to it later? Do you hate the color of your wall? Is your computer slower than molasses and driving you crazy? These are great examples of tolerations. Every time you walk past that pile and think you should do something about it, a bit of your energy is sucked away – the toleration has occupied space and taken some of your resources.
Here’s your challenge. Make a list of everything in your world that you are tolerating. It can be stuff, or people, or attitudes – things you can do something about or things you can’t. Keep that list handy, you’ll be using it later.
These are our bad habits.
Imagine you’re running an important race, but tied to your ankle is a small footstool. You have to run in a really awkward way to avoid stepping on the footstool and it keeps banging into your other leg.
Now imagine that the footstool becomes a sofa tied around your waist. You’re running as hard as you can, but making such little progress and using so much energy that you often have to sit down on the sofa to rest. You can’t even imagine making it to the finish line.
Our bad habits are just like the footstool or the sofa (or perhaps even a refrigerator!), wasting our resources and preventing us from finishing our race with energy and joy.
What are your bad habits? Make a list.
This is the worst of all – worry.
Think about your garden hose in the backyard with the tap turned on. If you worry a little, the water just trickles out endlessly, if you worry a lot, it gushes out flooding your whole yard and making it a murky swamp that sucks you under as soon as you step ourside.
Here’s an exercise for you. Draw a line on a piece of paper, with 1 at one end, 10 at the other, and 5 in the middle. Then rate your self on this ‘worry scale’. Put yourself closer to 1 if worry doesn’t impact you much, for example, if you find yourself worrying, you take action to solve your problem. Mark closer to 5 if worry affects you somewhat, impacting your sleeping or eating and other things in your life. You’re closer to a 10 if worry affects your life daily and your sleep, eating, moods and relationships are regularly affected. If you mark yourself above a 3, you likely have a worry leak that needs some attention.
What to Do Next
If you’ve been playing along, you have created 2 lists and you have a worry number. These indicate your energy leaks.
The easiest place to start is with the Vampires. Look at your tolerations list and divide into those you can control and those you can’t. Find the three easiest items to take care of on the list of things you can control. Go take care of them, or schedule in your calendar when you will do that. You will feel lighter and more energized immediately. I promise!
How to deal with things you can’t control, bad habits, and worry are a bit more difficult and require you to make some personal adjustments. You might need some help for that, so make sure you get it.
Where Are Your Leaks?
What have you discovered about your leaks? Post a comment and let us know what drains your energy and how you manage it (or not!)